Comments on: Has Anyone Seen This Man http://twwly.com/2010/07/07/has-anyone-seen-this-man/ A little land and a lot of love Thu, 02 Feb 2012 18:58:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Katie http://twwly.com/2010/07/07/has-anyone-seen-this-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3459 Katie Sun, 25 Jul 2010 21:29:37 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1486#comment-3459 We live and work at the Carnival, and the work days are long. I have the benefit of going out to see him most times if I want, but he is always busy fixing something. I have a thing for the rugged hands too ;}. But this 7 days a week, 14 hrs a day schedule is killing me. We live and work at the Carnival, and the work days are long. I have the benefit of going out to see him most times if I want, but he is always busy fixing something. I have a thing for the rugged hands too ;}.
But this 7 days a week, 14 hrs a day schedule is killing me.

]]> By: Arkay http://twwly.com/2010/07/07/has-anyone-seen-this-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3431 Arkay Thu, 15 Jul 2010 04:08:18 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1486#comment-3431 I know exactly how that goes. Nick works insane hours. He is gone so much of the time. And he takes our only vehicle. When he comes home I feel like a puppy dog following him around, asking for details of his day...trying to catch up on all the things I want to show him, etc...I see the frustration in his eyes at times and it is really hard. I know exactly how that goes. Nick works insane hours. He is gone so much of the time. And he takes our only vehicle. When he comes home I feel like a puppy dog following him around, asking for details of his day…trying to catch up on all the things I want to show him, etc…I see the frustration in his eyes at times and it is really hard.

]]> By: Bethany Susan http://twwly.com/2010/07/07/has-anyone-seen-this-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3428 Bethany Susan Wed, 14 Jul 2010 19:18:01 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1486#comment-3428 My man and I work opposite schedules currently. It's coming down to that classic decision of importance: time together or money to make our dreams happen? I am so so thankful to have him though. Why is it so easy to forget that he's my soul mate at the end of the day and treat him more like a business partner? I totally relate to the little yip dog comment. It's like HEY! I haven't seen you in so long GUESS WHAT... I love this though, Hayley is right: "The only advice I can give is spend your love all over him every chance you get." My man and I work opposite schedules currently. It’s coming down to that classic decision of importance: time together or money to make our dreams happen?

I am so so thankful to have him though. Why is it so easy to forget that he’s my soul mate at the end of the day and treat him more like a business partner? I totally relate to the little yip dog comment. It’s like HEY! I haven’t seen you in so long GUESS WHAT…

I love this though, Hayley is right: “The only advice I can give is spend your love all over him every chance you get.”

]]> By: Rachel http://twwly.com/2010/07/07/has-anyone-seen-this-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3427 Rachel Tue, 13 Jul 2010 00:58:38 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1486#comment-3427 I really enjoy reading your posts but have not commented until now- because boy, can I relate! When it's 10 am and I'm napping beside my daughter, I could not be more thankful to my husband for working as hard as he does so I can stay home and raise her. When it's 12 am and I'm alone with a wide-awake, teething baby because he's out camping... well, my feelings towards him aren't quite the same! I know he needs his down time after working so hard but I finally figured out that I do too. I signed up for a goofy dance class once a week with a friend and after just an hour of being around other adults, seeing my good friend and having both hands free without a baby strapped to me or hanging on my boob, I can come home and just be glad to see him, much less resentful and much less likely to talk his ear off. Sounds silly to suggest being away from the person you miss so much, but a little time for just myself has helped make our time together much better. Good luck! I really enjoy reading your posts but have not commented until now- because boy, can I relate! When it’s 10 am and I’m napping beside my daughter, I could not be more thankful to my husband for working as hard as he does so I can stay home and raise her. When it’s 12 am and I’m alone with a wide-awake, teething baby because he’s out camping… well, my feelings towards him aren’t quite the same! I know he needs his down time after working so hard but I finally figured out that I do too. I signed up for a goofy dance class once a week with a friend and after just an hour of being around other adults, seeing my good friend and having both hands free without a baby strapped to me or hanging on my boob, I can come home and just be glad to see him, much less resentful and much less likely to talk his ear off. Sounds silly to suggest being away from the person you miss so much, but a little time for just myself has helped make our time together much better. Good luck!

]]> By: Jenn http://twwly.com/2010/07/07/has-anyone-seen-this-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3426 Jenn Mon, 12 Jul 2010 13:29:25 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1486#comment-3426 Here, here! We're in the process of moving to Canada from Ireland and part of it is that myself, my daughter and our bump are seperated from him for 3 months with a 2 week visit in between. It sucks. And I have felt the way you feel when we are together too. Sigh. I wish I had an answer. Pregnancy brain is not allowing me to think! Here, here!
We’re in the process of moving to Canada from Ireland and part of it is that myself, my daughter and our bump are seperated from him for 3 months with a 2 week visit in between. It sucks. And I have felt the way you feel when we are together too. Sigh. I wish I had an answer. Pregnancy brain is not allowing me to think!

]]> By: Mimi http://twwly.com/2010/07/07/has-anyone-seen-this-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3423 Mimi Sun, 11 Jul 2010 21:41:56 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1486#comment-3423 I live in Oklahoma and my boyfriend lives in Wales. There really is no way of coping with missing him. I haven't seen him since May 10th and will more than likely not see him again until September at the earliest or December at the latest. I hate crawling into bed every night alone and waking up every morning without him beside me but I know that this is only temporary. He is planning on "popping the question" sometime over the Christmas holiday and we will hopefully be married by the end of next summer. The time we spend apart only enforces how much I love him. It's both a blessing and a curse to love someone so much but it helps to know that the time you spend apart from them makes them miss you just as much as you miss them. And as far as stifling my excitment when it comes to being able to talk to him/see him/etc...I DON'T! ;) I live in Oklahoma and my boyfriend lives in Wales. There really is no way of coping with missing him. I haven’t seen him since May 10th and will more than likely not see him again until September at the earliest or December at the latest.

I hate crawling into bed every night alone and waking up every morning without him beside me but I know that this is only temporary. He is planning on “popping the question” sometime over the Christmas holiday and we will hopefully be married by the end of next summer. The time we spend apart only enforces how much I love him.

It’s both a blessing and a curse to love someone so much but it helps to know that the time you spend apart from them makes them miss you just as much as you miss them.

And as far as stifling my excitment when it comes to being able to talk to him/see him/etc…I DON’T! ;)

]]> By: Fahay http://twwly.com/2010/07/07/has-anyone-seen-this-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3420 Fahay Fri, 09 Jul 2010 12:15:11 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1486#comment-3420 Nope, no advice. I'm really not good at dealing with this either. My husband is a pilot and he keep leaving for days or weeks every now and then. I can't help myself and I'm tough with him out of disapointment, then I feel bad for being a bitch since he's working hard to support us and he's doing his best and he's such a good person. I only wish time will make it easier, but our first kid is only three months old and I miss him twice as much, since I so desperately want to share all the excitment and hard work with him... He left this morning for 6 days again and it feels like it's gonna be 6 months. I wish I could stop being sad about this and enjoy the time we spend together much more, instead of worrying about the next time he'll be gone. The worst part is (this is silly and innapropriate I know) that he's 20 years older than me and sometimes I'm so scared I'm gonna loose him one day and I'd have to keep going maybe for years without him, and it breaks my heart to think it MIGHT happen, even though we're not that old and I really should not think about it. But sometimes, when I really miss him, I freak out. Stupid. Nope, no advice. I’m really not good at dealing with this either. My husband is a pilot and he keep leaving for days or weeks every now and then. I can’t help myself and I’m tough with him out of disapointment, then I feel bad for being a bitch since he’s working hard to support us and he’s doing his best and he’s such a good person. I only wish time will make it easier, but our first kid is only three months old and I miss him twice as much, since I so desperately want to share all the excitment and hard work with him… He left this morning for 6 days again and it feels like it’s gonna be 6 months. I wish I could stop being sad about this and enjoy the time we spend together much more, instead of worrying about the next time he’ll be gone.
The worst part is (this is silly and innapropriate I know) that he’s 20 years older than me and sometimes I’m so scared I’m gonna loose him one day and I’d have to keep going maybe for years without him, and it breaks my heart to think it MIGHT happen, even though we’re not that old and I really should not think about it. But sometimes, when I really miss him, I freak out. Stupid.

]]> By: Daniel http://twwly.com/2010/07/07/has-anyone-seen-this-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3419 Daniel Fri, 09 Jul 2010 12:00:01 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1486#comment-3419 Quick bit of background: my wife and I were a long-distance couple for four years while I worked and she went to school. We got pretty good at dealing with the loneliness. Now, we've been living together for about 12 years. We both work unusual schedules and have non-work activities that aren't in common. The issues you're talking about definitely come up. I don't have any great advice except that it seems to help to confront the issue directly when it pops up (eg. be forthright about the fact that one or the other of us is being pissy because we're lonely and having the "ships-passing-in-the-night feeling" and not because of any more general discontent). It's tough. Neither of us wants to ask the other to do less of what they love as individuals, but we're also protective of the time we do spend together. It's just about finding and maintaining a good balance and that requires constant readjustment. Quick bit of background: my wife and I were a long-distance couple for four years while I worked and she went to school. We got pretty good at dealing with the loneliness. Now, we’ve been living together for about 12 years. We both work unusual schedules and have non-work activities that aren’t in common. The issues you’re talking about definitely come up. I don’t have any great advice except that it seems to help to confront the issue directly when it pops up (eg. be forthright about the fact that one or the other of us is being pissy because we’re lonely and having the “ships-passing-in-the-night feeling” and not because of any more general discontent). It’s tough. Neither of us wants to ask the other to do less of what they love as individuals, but we’re also protective of the time we do spend together. It’s just about finding and maintaining a good balance and that requires constant readjustment.

]]> By: Julie http://twwly.com/2010/07/07/has-anyone-seen-this-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3418 Julie Fri, 09 Jul 2010 02:28:46 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1486#comment-3418 I do roller derby so at least a couple of nights a week during the season I am gone until sometimes as late as 11:00 PM. You'd think there would be a respite during the off season but no, I am the co-chair of Recruiting so I am still home from work, changed, then off and running. I told him last season would be my last and instead I am going back for more. I feel incredibly lucky that he supports me (has never missed a single bout) and encourages me. There are girls on my league who are not so lucky. I try to make up for it but it is hard. Fortunately we don't have kids so that isn't an issue. ^_- I do roller derby so at least a couple of nights a week during the season I am gone until sometimes as late as 11:00 PM. You’d think there would be a respite during the off season but no, I am the co-chair of Recruiting so I am still home from work, changed, then off and running. I told him last season would be my last and instead I am going back for more. I feel incredibly lucky that he supports me (has never missed a single bout) and encourages me. There are girls on my league who are not so lucky. I try to make up for it but it is hard. Fortunately we don’t have kids so that isn’t an issue. ^_-

]]> By: Aunt Nancy http://twwly.com/2010/07/07/has-anyone-seen-this-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3416 Aunt Nancy Fri, 09 Jul 2010 00:20:23 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1486#comment-3416 You forgot to mention his magnificent voice and way with words! OK. I'm not helping now, am I? You forgot to mention his magnificent voice and way with words! OK. I’m not helping now, am I?

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