Comments on: Owies http://twwly.com/2009/11/28/owies/ A little land and a lot of love Sat, 19 May 2012 00:48:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Anonymous http://twwly.com/2009/11/28/owies/comment-page-1/#comment-2628 Anonymous Sun, 07 Feb 2010 09:02:10 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1032#comment-2628 I have a memory like a steel iron trap. I am the youngest of two sisters. You have already received input about siblings but I'd like to add: When your children start to bicker back and forward, it's important that, instead of asking them to quit talking and silencing any "but, but.."s. I highly recommend letting the antagonizer have their say, then allowing the other child to also have a say. I felt like my sister always said what she needed to say and I never got to defend myself. It caused a lot of frustration and our altercations became more violent on my behalf. You're a good mother and that's why I read your blog, I just wish that instead of, "i'm going to pull this car over and beat the tar out of you if you don't shut up." I heard, "i'm going to pull this car over and we can talk about this issue." I have a memory like a steel iron trap. I am the youngest of two sisters. You have already received input about siblings but I’d like to add: When your children start to bicker back and forward, it’s important that, instead of asking them to quit talking and silencing any “but, but..”s. I highly recommend letting the antagonizer have their say, then allowing the other child to also have a say. I felt like my sister always said what she needed to say and I never got to defend myself. It caused a lot of frustration and our altercations became more violent on my behalf. You’re a good mother and that’s why I read your blog, I just wish that instead of, “i’m going to pull this car over and beat the tar out of you if you don’t shut up.” I heard, “i’m going to pull this car over and we can talk about this issue.”

]]> By: mmgood http://twwly.com/2009/11/28/owies/comment-page-1/#comment-2229 mmgood Sat, 12 Dec 2009 18:09:39 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1032#comment-2229 hey, i just ran across a great blog "the parenting passageway" and they had a post that reminded me of this recent post of yours re: sibling rivalry. thought i'd pass it on. http://theparentingpassageway.com/2009/07/25/sibling-rivalry-and-fighting-how-much-to-intervene/ hey, i just ran across a great blog “the parenting passageway” and they had a post that reminded me of this recent post of yours re: sibling rivalry. thought i’d pass it on. http://theparentingpassageway.com/2009/07/25/sibling-rivalry-and-fighting-how-much-to-intervene/

]]> By: allison inge http://twwly.com/2009/11/28/owies/comment-page-1/#comment-2121 allison inge Thu, 03 Dec 2009 16:30:33 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1032#comment-2121 long time lurker here, forced to comment on the little boston terrier in the first photo. i thought your life was too adorable for words before. now i'm dying! long time lurker here, forced to comment on the little boston terrier in the first photo. i thought your life was too adorable for words before. now i’m dying!

]]> By: HAYLEY (FROM PORT) http://twwly.com/2009/11/28/owies/comment-page-1/#comment-2118 HAYLEY (FROM PORT) Tue, 01 Dec 2009 21:46:26 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1032#comment-2118 Unfortunately it's all too normal!! My son and daughter squabble and antagonize each other. However, they do often play very well together too. I have a book called "siblings without rivalry" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. It's full of good stuff. Very helpful I find. the kids are adorable by the way.............. :) Unfortunately it’s all too normal!! My son and daughter squabble and antagonize each other. However, they do often play very well together too. I have a book called “siblings without rivalry” by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. It’s full of good stuff. Very helpful I find. the kids are adorable by the way………….. :)

]]> By: Mac http://twwly.com/2009/11/28/owies/comment-page-1/#comment-2117 Mac Tue, 01 Dec 2009 21:23:27 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1032#comment-2117 Love/Hate, always, and its worse when they're older and accuse you of picking sides in random argument sessions they might have. It only lasts a couple minutes anyway. Its a form of competition, revenge and laughter. Builds "memories", thats what my older brother used to say after he beat me up and wiped my tears. Love/Hate, always, and its worse when they’re older and accuse you of picking sides in random argument sessions they might have. It only lasts a couple minutes anyway. Its a form of competition, revenge and laughter. Builds “memories”, thats what my older brother used to say after he beat me up and wiped my tears.

]]> By: Nai http://twwly.com/2009/11/28/owies/comment-page-1/#comment-2116 Nai Tue, 01 Dec 2009 06:59:31 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1032#comment-2116 This has nothing to do with the topic up for discussion, but since you're a farm wife, it made me think immediately of you. http://awfullibrarybooks.wordpress.com/2009/11/25/mrs-farmer-in-the-dell/ This has nothing to do with the topic up for discussion, but since you’re a farm wife, it made me think immediately of you. http://awfullibrarybooks.wordpress.com/2009/11/25/mrs-farmer-in-the-dell/

]]> By: Arkay http://twwly.com/2009/11/28/owies/comment-page-1/#comment-2115 Arkay Tue, 01 Dec 2009 06:50:50 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1032#comment-2115 There is a good book, that I am reading, have read, will read again called Siblings Without Rivalry. I am a sibling, and remember the insane fighting, and also the fun. My daughters are all best friends, and then will be very mean to each other. An important thing that we are always doing is trying to teach them that they are not competing with each other...that everyone in this house is on the same team...it helps...because they compete over how many seconds longer one gets a hug, etc...it gets very trivial if left unchecked around here. There is a good book, that I am reading, have read, will read again called Siblings Without Rivalry.

I am a sibling, and remember the insane fighting, and also the fun. My daughters are all best friends, and then will be very mean to each other. An important thing that we are always doing is trying to teach them that they are not competing with each other…that everyone in this house is on the same team…it helps…because they compete over how many seconds longer one gets a hug, etc…it gets very trivial if left unchecked around here.

]]> By: farmama http://twwly.com/2009/11/28/owies/comment-page-1/#comment-2114 farmama Tue, 01 Dec 2009 04:10:00 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1032#comment-2114 These are spectacularly cute photos of your littles!! These are spectacularly cute photos of your littles!!

]]> By: rebecca http://twwly.com/2009/11/28/owies/comment-page-1/#comment-2113 rebecca Tue, 01 Dec 2009 03:52:36 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1032#comment-2113 yeah, esmee and zoe antagonize each other all the time. actually, they're in zoe's room right now and all i hear is screams. it drives me nuts, especially since the age difference is so big and i really expect zoe to know better. but no, they're still always at it. sigh. and yeah, me and my brother were the same way. yeah, esmee and zoe antagonize each other all the time. actually, they’re in zoe’s room right now and all i hear is screams. it drives me nuts, especially since the age difference is so big and i really expect zoe to know better. but no, they’re still always at it. sigh.

and yeah, me and my brother were the same way.

]]> By: Twwly http://twwly.com/2009/11/28/owies/comment-page-1/#comment-2112 Twwly Tue, 01 Dec 2009 00:12:53 +0000 http://twwly.com/?p=1032#comment-2112 Wow, I really appreciate all of the input! Wow, I really appreciate all of the input!

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